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Misinformation [May. 22nd, 2009|05:36 pm]
A Community For Jewish Parenting


This community has been SO quiet for SO long! I hope it's not dying!

Here's a hypothetical question that interests me greatly .... What do you do if a child in your life comes up to you and says, "Hey, Adult That I Trust, my parents told me [fill in the blank with something obviously untrue or not completely true]. Is that true?"

I don't believe in lying to children, but I also don't believe in driving a wedge of mistrust between a child and his/her parents. I realize it would depend on the question, the nature of the misinformation, and the age of the child, among other things, but I still can't really imagine how I would handle it.

What if a 4-year-old wants to know if his deceased pet is "with another family?" What if a 2-year-old says, "Is it true that only grown-ups can drink Coca-Cola?" What if a 10-year-old girl wants to know if you know about "God's special way" of bringing babies into the world, which in no way resembles the actual birth process? What if an 8-year-old says that she doesn't need to wash her hands because "we all share the same germs?"

How would you handle these scenarios? Give me some others, too: real or imaginary situations and how you have or would handle them.

From: shadowkate
2009-05-23 03:23 pm (UTC)
First, I do think that soda should be for grown ups only. So I don't think that the 2 year old is being told a lie. That is parental preference.

That said, while I think lying is a poor way to parent and teaching kids that lying is okay, I don't think it's our place to tell them differently.

In the case of the 8 year old though, I might say while that is acceptable at his house, here everyone needs to watch their hands. Otherwise I'd let their parent's sort it out.
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[User Picture]From: trempnvt
2009-05-23 07:18 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I think I'd handle all of those situations the same way.
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[User Picture]From: stickylatex
2009-05-23 09:33 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I don't think kids should drink soda either. I was more referring to the fact that neither should adults, really. None of these are based on real events, so I was struggling to come up with examples ... poor choice of words, I'd say.
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